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Robin Elise's avatar

This, all this, so much this. My SS & DMV name/gender updates were in computer glitch hell on the 20th, & my gut was knotted in anxiety all day long. The morning of the 21st, though, I went to my SSA office, told them I needed it fixed, & got a walk-in appt. It took two agents half an hour to resolve the issue, but we did it, & as of last night I am officially me โ€” the real me โ€” on my SS account. Which means tomorrow I can go back to the DMV for the 3d time to finish updating my license. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ

Next up, birth certificate & passport. BC Iโ€™m not worried about, & Iโ€™ll be fine with whatever passport gender I wind up with precisely because my name will be correct regardless. Ari is exactly right.

Do not panic; do not let the bastards get you down! โœŠ๐Ÿผ โœŠ๐Ÿผ โœŠ๐Ÿผ

R. Guadalupe Hidalgo's avatar

Thank you for sharing your thoughts and courage, Ari. I am an ally, and I am a brown, cis man. I know they donโ€™t like me either, and I also know that Iโ€™m not going anywhere, especially back. I wear my Pride beads on my right wrist so to be easily identified by anyone who will look. I stand with you because I am an ally.

boyshinboiv's avatar

love this, thanks for the words of inspiration

Bkhflx's avatar

Thank you Ari <3 ๐Ÿณ๏ธโ€โšง๏ธ

Sam's avatar

Thank you for sharing. I really needed to read this right now.

ptrdo's avatar

We have been renewing our passports online and encountered a quizzical request to verify that our first name and gender have not changed (this after already confirming the pre-existing information from our expired passports).

We were then asked to provide a recent waist-up photo, which again seems weird. As recently as last September, credible online information explains that โ€œa perfect square imageโ€ of the โ€œhead and shouldersโ€ is what's required for passports.

Why does the US State department suddenly need to see my torso? Apparently, they have reasons.

Pat Az's avatar

My renewal was submitted mid-January; so weโ€™ll see what happens

Skylar Lyralen Kaye, fae/they's avatar

This is the first post that has gotten me to subscribe right off in MONTHS. You rock. Thank you.

Roya White Eagle's avatar

Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!